“Blessed are you when people insult you…” (Matthew 5:11); “Never pay back evil for evil to anyone…” (Romans 12:17); “Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good” (Romans 12:21).
Even in the best of circumstances, within Christian families and wonderful churches, there are acquaintances and even family members who, though they may not necessarily do evil against you, are still very unfriendly, rude and disrespectful to you.
This happens to many and yes, it is very hurtful and sad, even to those who are mature in their walk with God.
What to do?
Continue to live out the life of Christ in obedience to the Word of God. For example, in Colossians 3 it instructs followers of Christ to put on a heart of compassion, kindness and humility.
This should describe our relationship with everyone. Even though you may not be experiencing this from some of your family members and acquaintances, never return with rudeness, disrespect or unkindness.
By the way, if being in their presence troubles them, then out of respect, you might continue to pray for them, but choose to stay away. I realize you cannot do this in every situation, but if there is a special function, birthday or family gathering where you presence would cause others to be uncomfortable, then ask the Lord to make it possible for you not to attend, simply to pray and stay away!