Friday, June 17, 2022

“Manners - The Kindness of Christ in Action”

Parents, do you teach manners to your children? They can learn by observing your manners. Manners help you and your children to make friends with others and open the door for you to share the Gospel!

You will notice throughout Scripture the teaching of kindness. In Titus 3 Paul speaks of the kindness of God and then challenges Christians to display this kindness by being “careful to engage in good deeds” (Titus 3:8). Good deeds you perform show your manners, and manners display the kindness of Christ!

“Do nothing from selfishness or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others” (Philippians 2:3-4).

As you teach manners to children at home, or during a Sunday school class, or in a school classroom, you can use the sections of the body such as the following:

Head: – Think, “What should I do in this situation to help others?”

Eyes: – Look at people when they talk to you.

– Look at people when you talk to them.

– Look around to see what needs to be done.

Ears: – Listen when people talk to you. Learn to listen to the needs of others.

Mouth: – Let no unwholesome word proceed from your mouth, but only such a word as is good for edification according to the need of the moment, so that it will give grace to those who hear. (Ephesians 4:29).

– Speak kindly to others, say “Hello”, “Thank you,” “Please,” “How may I help you?” “Excuse me.” “I’m sorry, forgive me (if the situation deems such).”

– Try to use people’s names when you are talking to them.

– Don’t talk on your phone at meal times. In fact, never let anyone bring a phone to meal time. PARENTS, you will need to insist on this!

– Smile at others.

– Come to the defense of others when they are made fun of.

– If you are shy and do not speak to others, you come across as rude and selfish,

putting the emphasis is on yourself.

– Teach your children to speak respectfully to adults by looking at them in the eyes. Don’t let your children respond affirmatively with “yeah”, instead use “Yes, sir” or “Yes. ma’am.”

Hands: – Open the door for others.

– Shake hands firmly and warmly.

– Help people with their coats.

– Take older people by the arm to help them across the street or up the stairs (However, make sure they want to go up the stairs or across the street!).

– Teach your children to help clean up (if appropriate) after visiting and eating as guests in another home. Also assign them chores in your own home.

Feet: – Don’t sit when you should stand.

– Men, immediately stand to give women and others your seat.

– Men, always try to sit on the outside so you can easily get up to help others.

Body: – Show respect for others by the way you dress, especially at special occasions such weddings, funerals, recitals, church, (and when you take your wife out for a special occasion).

– Always dress to show respect.

– “Modesty” – Fathers and Mothers, teach your girls modesty! One of the reasons some Christian men do not like to attend weddings is because of the immodesty of the bride, bridesmaids, and many women in attendance.

– Westerners are known for sloppy dress overseas, so if you travel, dress neatly. Especially do not be an embarrassment to those you visit in other countries and as a representative of Christ.

As followers of Christ, let’s live for Him in kindness and teach our children to do so also, which will give them and us opportunities to share the Gospel of repentance and faith!

--prepared by Doug Nichols


Monday, February 7, 2022

The Lord Was Good and Did Good

God never stops doing good for his people.

GEORGE MÜLLER was a leader in the Plymouth Brethren movement, a faith mission advocate, and the founder and director of orphanages during the 1800s in Britain. He was known for his faith and prayer life. Never directly appealing for funds, Müller relied only on prayer for the support of his orphanages and his mission work. He never drew a salary, always trusting that God would meet his needs. His faith was rewarded—God always met the needs of his orphanages and mission organizations.

Müller experienced a severe test of his faith when on February 6, 1870, his beloved wife, Mary, died of rheumatic fever. She had not been well for three years, and the rheumatic fever overcame her in her weakened state. After six days of terrible suffering, she died.

Müller wrote in his diary that day: “39 years and 4 months ago, the Lord gave me my most valuable, lovely and holy wife. Her value to me, and the blessing God made her to me, is beyond description. This blessing was continued to me till this day, when this afternoon, about four o’clock, the Lord took her to Himself.”

February 11 he wrote: “To-day the earthly remains of my precious wife were laid in the grave. Many thousands of persons showed the deepest sympathy. About 1,400 of the orphans who were able to walk followed in the procession. . . . I myself, sustained by the Lord to the utmost, performed the service at the chapel, in the cemetery, etc.”

He chose Psalm 119:68 as the text of the funeral sermon: “You are good, and do good.” His message had three points: (1) The Lord was good, and did good, in giving her to me. (2) The Lord was good, and did good, in so long leaving her to me. (3) The Lord was good, and did good, in taking her from me.

In discussing his third point he told how he had prayed for her during her illness: “Yes, my Father, the times of my darling wife are in Thy hands. Thou wilt do the very best thing for her and for me, whether life or death. If it may be, raise up yet again my precious wife—Thou art able to do it, though she is so ill; but howsoever Thou dealest with me, only help me to continue to be perfectly satisfied with Thy holy will.”

Müller felt that God had answered his prayer, both in how he dealt with Mary and how he dealt with his own heart:

Everyday I see more and more how great [is] her loss to the orphans. Yet, without an effort, my inmost soul habitually joys in the joy of that loved departed one. Her happiness gives joy to me. My dear daughter and I would not have her back, were it possible to produce it by the turn of the hand. God Himself has done it; we are satisfied with Him.

As a husband, I feel more and more every day that I am without this pleasant, useful, loving companion. As the Director of the Orphan Houses, I miss her in numberless ways and shall miss her yet more and more. But as a child of God, and as the servant of the Lord Jesus, I bow, I am satisfied with the will of my Heavenly Father, I seek by perfect submission to His holy will to glorify Him, I kiss continually the hand that has thus afflicted me; but I also say, I shall meet her again, to spend a happy eternity with her.

A close friend reported that after the funeral Müller sat at the vestry table, buried his face in his hands, and did not speak or move for two hours. But in his loneliness and grief he could still say to the Lord, “You are good and do good.”

Source: One-Year Book of Christian History Devotional, pages 74-75