There are three (3) guidelines to controlling self:
1. Choose your environment. “But put on the Lord Jesus Christ and make no provision for the flesh in regard to its lusts” (Romans 13:14, nasb).
2. Trust God for help! “I can do all things through Him who strengthens me” (Philippians 4:13, nasb).
We need to trust God to give us the strength to control and put to death the passions of lust, tobacco, alcohol, position, pride, and possessions. We need to trust God in dealing with anxiety, fear, and hatred. Avoid saying, “Well that’s the way I am!”
God, the great “I AM” sent His son Jesus to die to save you from your “I am”!
3. Counteract the bad with the good.
“Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good” (Romans 12:21, nasb).
If you have a problem with slander and gossip, speak a word of encouragement:
a. If a woman or a man tempts you, give them a gospel booklet and then run.
b. If your enemy offends you, bless them.
c. If your husband, wife or friend treats you badly, love and serve them anyway.